Grief

Symptoms:

  • Sadness that a loved one’s gone but relief that they’re at peace.

  • Yearning for a spouse after a divorce but also excitement that you get another shot at love.

  • Guilt for feeling grateful that you no longer have to provide exhausting around-the-clock care for a dying relative.

  • Competing feelings of apathy, anger, sadness and regret as you grieve the loss of a friend or family member with whom you had a strained or hostile relationship.

  • Confusion.

  • Trouble thinking or making decisions.

  • Feeling as if you’ve lost a sense of hope or direction.

  • Difficulty focusing on anything other than your loss.

  • Difficulty remembering or keeping track of your responsibilities.

  • Feel as if a part of yourself is lost or has died.

  • Don’t believe that the death or loss has occurred.

  • Avoid reminders of the death or loss.

  • Experience intense emotional pain relating to the loss that interferes with daily living.

  • Feel emotionally numb, lonely or as if your life doesn’t have meaning or purpose.

  • Find it difficult to live life, make plans with friends, participate in activities you enjoy or make decisions for the future.

Denial: You may have difficulty accepting that a loss is real.

Anger: You may direct anger at multiple sources, including people who couldn’t save a loved one, God, yourself — or even no one in particular.

Bargaining: You may imagine reaching an agreement, so you don’t have to deal with a loss. You may also regret past actions that you imagine could’ve spared you from loss.

Depression: You may experience the complex emotions associated with depression, including emotional detachment.

Acceptance: Eventually, most people embrace the reality of loss even if the pain’s still there.
— Elizabeth Kubler Ross' 5 Stages of Grief (1969)Model

Information obtained from the Cleveland Clinic (2023)

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